Trusting your instincts

A friend of mine always says, “When you know, you just know that you know” and she is so right.

Sometimes in life, we firmly believe something that we just know in our gut is meant to be and is right. This is because, I believe, when our souls were created, the map of our lives was firmly imprinted on it. In life, we get little signs and signals telling us where to go next. Some people call this a sixth sense or a gut instinct.

The idea of a “soul tribe” is something believed to be a new age phenomenon. The soul tribe is the group of souls you lived or travelled with when your soul was created. When we meet someone from our soul tribe, we instantly recognise them. Our soul understands who this is, even if they are a stranger. You connect in a way that can’t be explained. This idea runs through many faiths.

Our trouble is, we live in physical world and the mind, logic, common sense is deemed to be a much stronger judge of character than the heart, the gut, the soul, the instinct. People who live from the heart and soul will understand what I mean. This idea of firmly knowing something in your soul conflicts with what the world and your mind conditions you to believe. You then begin a process of conflict, flicking back from heart to mind, back and forth. Confusion ensues!!

Recently, I’ve been in this state of conflict. It is hard to stay firm to what you believe to be true. It is something that takes a lot of strength, patience and courage. I’m not doing the best job, but I’m doing what I can because I have to be honest and true to my own soul. Its funny how you ask for signs and they appear, but you still continue to doubt. This is ego, fear. Sometimes it is easier to take the path of least resistance, but there is more than one way to fight.

I’ve had some interesting experiences lately, and I’ve been thinking about this thing we call Love. You’ll see this in my last post. I’ve learnt that the path is written, and I’m holding on because of what I know to be true.  In the last few weeks, I’ve been stretched and broken but I know what I know and this is what gives me the patience to keep going. “Even after all this time, I’m still here. Because when love is true, it waits.” Its the continuous Love and strength that I am receiving from the Divine that tells me to be patient and all will fine.

I think our previous experiences in life teach us to expect a pattern of failure, and lessen our self worth. It is only when you yourself can see the cycle and break it, do things begin to change. I have spent the last year breaking cycles, doing things differently and I can’t believe the distance I have travelled. Take nothing for granted though. Through this process, I’ve learnt about my own fears and insecurities and I’m working through them. If I break now, I can forgive myself, but I know I want to move forward not backwards.

When you see a diamond and it sparkles and it is perfection, always remember that to get to that stage, it has been subject to the weight of the world. Sometimes life squeezes you in this way. It is the Divine’s way of testing how strong you are. Once you start making yourself strong again, you will be ready to receive what is to come. It is all being planned for us, and He only intends good for us. It feels like nothing but pain at the time, but always remember you’re being prepared for the rest of your journey.

My soul knows what is written, and this pain is necessary, but I know the only thing I need to do is to ride the storm and stay true to what I know. It will be worth waiting for, I’m almost strong enough to receive it. So I continue onwards, working on myself, being mindful, losing the worry, doubt, stress. Love myself, love my creator and by the good He has put in me, know that I trust in Him completely. What is good will move forward.

Peace, Love and Blessings to all



Unconditional Love…

Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth, “You owe me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights up the whole sky. (Hafez)

Today, I am being called to write about Love…Unconditional Love. This is a treasure that is found in family. Those that are fortunate enough to find it in their partner understand what is not spoken. This is a bond you share, a gift you give and receive.

Love is Love…pure and true. It has no expectations, no boundaries, no obligations. It doesn’t see, hear, touch, taste, smell, rather it FEELS. Love is part of the soul. We were created by the eternal Source of Love, with Love and TO love.

How can I describe it? It is more than a feeling, its a knowing. Its your soul looking at another soul and speaking those invisible words. It is that knowing that your souls have travelled together since they were created. It is that connection, that familiarity. It is what lights your face up when you see that person.It is that uncontrollable smile that comes from deep within. It is knowing that there is always honesty. It is the silence spoken with the eyes that only the two of you will ever understand. It doesn’t need to speak. It is an understanding, a thread that runs through and between two people.

To love is to allow someone to just be as they are. To love is to understand, to feel their pain and joy. Love is not to control, not to manipulate or deceive. Love is to allow someone to be free. Love, unconditional love, allows someone to exercise their own free will. It allows you to anticipate their needs before they have spoken. Love is selfless not selfish. Love is patience, humility. It is kindness, compassion, forgiveness.

Love means that you are both free as individuals. You are strong on your own and you are even stronger together. Love is not control, it is not pity, it is not guilt, it is not obligation. It is the one thing or person that will allow you to be who you are, do what you want and support you to be the best that you can be. Love is of mutual benefit to both. One person does not have more than the other. It is about being each others shelter. Love is respect and consideration. Love doesn’t need to ask, love is given willingly. Love is not about want or need. Love is the contentment that suffices.

There is no reason to clutch it tightly. It needs to be free to allow it to do what it does best. It softens, it comforts and it brings beauty to all things. It is what it is, there is no need to change it. Love is always perfect just as it is.

If you are to love, love with your soul. “Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. For those who love with their soul, there is no separation.”

Love is a place we all want to reach. If you find it, keep it, treasure it, be thankful and grateful for it. It is a reflection of the Divine, a gift to understand the qualities of your Creater and a reason to bring more love and light in to this world.